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news:3am79aF6eevtgU1@individual.net… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> "August Pamplona" <cosmic…@hotmail.com> wrote in message > news:3alhknF6cadk1U1@individual.net… > > August Pamplona wrote: > > > The Babaloughesian wrote: > > >> "August Pamplona" <cosmic…@hotmail.com> wrote in message > > >> news:3aha9tF6bj7lcU1@individual.net… > > >>>         It’s about this woman, let’s call her SYG. I had this mild > > >>> infatuation issue regarding her and I thought that it would not be > wise > > >>> for me to ignore it because it would, in my opinion, constitute > > >>> avoidant behavior. Basically, I did not want to have a situation like > > >>> Gray Loser’s with the coffee shop girl. I had not planned for this to > > >>> happen, it just did. > > >>>         So I made a decision to find out if she was married or > > >>> involved with someone by simply asking her about this and to ask her > if > > >>> she wanted to go out and do something if the answer was that she was > > >>> not married or involved. I had a couple of chances of doing this > before > > >>> today: the first I wasn’t really thinking that I should do it then and > > >>> the second I thought that I probably should have but I didn’t. > > >>>         I actually had a sort of rough sketch of a dialogue (nothing > > >>> quite Rainierian, just something simple: comment on her smiling a lot, > > >>> ask her about her job, ask her if she was married or in a relationship > > >>> and a decision point with one branch to be used if she said yes and > one > > >>> to be used if she said no –actually, I even had a third branch for > the > > >>> extremely unlikely event of her being a lesbian where I would have > said > > >>> something like "cool, we have more in common than I thought, then"). > > >>>         So early I actually got talk to her a bit and that was cool. > > >>> The subject of the job came up disrupting that script for later but it > > >>> didn’t worry me at all. > > >>>         Later, when I was with her again I just went for it and simply > > >>> asked her if she was married. She said yes. I then replied "You know, > > >>> if you hadn’t said that I would have had to ask her out". This was > very > > >>> important to me because I felt that admitting what my intentions were > > >>> in asking her about her marital status would be preferable to the > > >>> convenient fiction of pretending that it was simply a casual question > > >>> (it’s that crap I say about letting fear be your guide –noting that I > > >>> would had had the intent of asking her out was, in my mind, a lot > > >>> scarier than pretending otherwise*). Anyway she said thank you. I > > >>> commented that if she wanted I could tell her some other time why I > > >>> would have had to do this and she said no. And we just talked a little > > >>> bit more and it was no big deal (she’s been married since 1992). > > >>>         I’m very happy that I did it. I suppose that though, > > >>> technically, I still haven’t asked anyone out, I was still fully > > >>> prepared to do it and I have no doubt in my mind that had she said > that > > >>> she was not married or seeing anyone I would have done so. > > >>> August Pamplona > > >>> * Though in retrospect, the convenient fiction of it just being a > > >>> casual question might have been bad even then (it would be like > > >>> admitting to myself, and perhaps even to her, that even thinking of > > >>> asking her out was a bad thing that I should be ashamed of). > > >>> — > > >>> The waterfall in Java is not wet. > > >>> – omegazero2003 on m.f.w. > > >>> a.a. # 1811 apatriot #20 Eater of smut > > >>> Proud member of the reality-based community. > > >>> The address in this message’s ‘From’ field, in accordance with > > >>> individual.net’s TOS, is real. However, almost all messages > > >>> reaching this address are deleted without human intervention. > > >>> In other words, if you e-mail me there, I will not receive your > message. > > >>> To make sure that e-mail messages actually reach me, > > >>> make sure that my e-mail address is not hot. > > >> Your appearance alone would probably dissuade most women, rendering > your > > >         What do you mean? Do you think I look scary and unapproachable? > > > Would that matter once they figure out that I’m not at all scary and > > > that they have no real issues in talking with me. > > >  > exposition an exercise in futility. > > >         Regardless of whether what you comment on previously is true or > > > not, I don’t think that this is the case. It allowed me to succesfully > > > confront certain issues and p